• Before taking up the vital statistics common to all groups, such as age, education, and marital status, it is expedient to examine; the sex offenders and prison-group members in terms of type of offense and number of offenses.

    The 888 men in the prison group accounted for 3,069 offenses, or roughly three and one-half offenses per man. About half of these were misdemeanors for which a sentence was served; 14 per cent did not result in imprisonment, but in a fine, probation, or suspended sentences; and a third were felonies for which a sentence was served. The penologist will find nothing unusual in the proportions of general types of offenses: 48 per cent were crimes against property, chiefly stealing; 20 per cent were vagrancy or disorderly conduct, charges usually connected with drunkenness; 16 per cent were crimes against the public: order, such as gambling and use or sale of narcotics; 10 per cent were crimes against person, such as assault and battery, homicide, and armed robbery; 1 per cent were what we call “sex-connected” offenses such as bigamy, bastardy, and pimping, and the remaining 4 per cent of the offenses could not be clearly identified.

    The total sex-offender group has been subdivided according to the type of behavior that constituted the offense. Since a man can be convicted of several different types of offenses he can correspondingly appear in an equal number of sex-offense groups. For example, one man can be counted as a rapist and also as a peeper. Consequently, the sum of the individuals comprising the various sex-offender groups exceeds 1,356—the actual number of white male sex offenders used in this study. While we shall deal with a score of sex-offender groups, we shall be primarily concerned with 14 that are well-defined and that contain at least 25 individuals each.

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  • Many men get it wrong. Some dress badly because they think clothes are unimportant, some leave the buying of their clothes to their wives and others, we know, dress-young as they struggle to keep up with the gang.

    Obviously around M-M time dressing in an odd-ball way is fine if you are an eccentric or perhaps a painter or sculptor but it is hardly constructive if you still want to get ahead and be successful. With the ego already worried a man needs all the help he can get from his outer trappings. Just as his face and hair care contribute to confidence, so the choice of clothes should help bolster career and life in general.

    The truth is that no matter how much a man may swear he is disinterested in clothes, deep inside he knows he would like to be well-dressed and admired for the way he dresses. Often the problem is simply that he does not know where to start and at around forty it seems to him that every shop window is full of clothes designed exclusively for the fashion-plate whose age must be twenty-five.

    To succeed with minimum trouble all it needs is a few guidelines and one important recommendation that will undoubtedly be repeated: at this age, spend more not less — but buy less. Inexpensive clothes may look fine but on a man around forty they look what they are, inexpensive and inexpensively made. They may be fun and cheap but they rarely flatter.

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  • The strength of the lungs is tested by the simple means of blowing a number of times into a small machine and blood and urine samples are taken to check the efficient functioning of the internal mechanisms like liver and kidneys and, amongst other checks, to spot any signs of diabetes or anaemia. In a screening centre they will also x-ray the chest and carry out a more detailed physical examination that includes tests for rectal cancer and the more basic checks for sight and hearing as both deteriorate as we get older. At a screening centre tests will take up to three hours to complete.

    Everyone in the Western world knows the hazards of smoking tobacco but many still continue to do so. If you smoke, quit. Two out of every five men who smoke die before they are sixty-five and it has been calculated that a smoker aged thirty-five will live five years less than his equivalent who is a non-smoker. Cigar and pipe smokers are also at risk even though many would kid themselves they are not. Where cigarettes damage the lungs and cause cancer, cigars and pipes contribute to cancer of the mouth, pharynx and larynx. The risk a man takes smoking are out of all proportion to the pleasure the habit gives.

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  • Tied in with this sense of being life’s failure there may also be a fear of being a sexual failure. This could stem from an earlier failure and the fear of it being repeated or from the anticipation of criticism from a malicious or hostile partner. (Many Go-Go men also live constantly with the fear of failing to perform well as they rush into each encounter hoping to prove their continuing virility).

    Change of sexual desire too can at this time lead to a total lack of urge. Though it might not seem like it to a man whose changing attitude to life has started his questioning his sexual tastes, the fact that he cannot have the sexual style he wants may lead him to abstinence or reliance on masturbation. He may want a new young lover, for example, or to dabble in a gay relationship and feel frightened of making advances in that direction for fear of rejection or making a fool of himself. He would rather be abstinent than foolish.

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  • ‘By forty I thought I had gotten past it. For months I had felt depressed and discontented with everything . . . but nothing more. I still looked good with a tan on the beach.

    ‘Then at forty-five my world fell apart. I felt suicidal and my body behaved like someone else’s, not mine. Now THAT was the male-menopause!’

    Survivor, forty-seven, L.A.

    Despite the myths and rumours, there are no purely physical symptoms that can be directly attributed to the male-menopause. There are, as we know, no hormonal changes to take place but there are strange side effects, both real and imaginery, that can be triggered by it nonetheless. Many are linked with the problems of having an aging body to contend with.

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  • It is unfortunate that a cry for help may not be recognized for what it is because not knowing how to come to the point and explain the troubles compounds a man’s predicament.

    Men are capable of a wide range of feelings and emotions yet somehow, possibly since history began, it is the accepted norm in masculine imagery to expect a man to hide his inner feelings. For a man, showing emotion appears to be equated with showing weakness — so asking directly for help to sort out what in essence is an emotional crisis takes an act of supreme bravery. Never before has he been more exposed or defenceless. Most, as a result, plump for complaining about their lot in the hope that someone will come to their aid with an easy solution.

    According to therapists, looking for help at home represents the most difficult task. A wife will point out all that is good about his life (his job, his pension, his family, the car) and the reasons why he should not change anything (the mortgage, the pension, the money, school fees, aged parents). These are the very ties that are oppressing him but she sees them as his manly responsibilities. Her suggestions that you pull yourself together and face up to your responsibilities, although along the right lines, are hardly demonstrative of understanding or constructive in their support. She may also suspect because of his irrational behaviour that he is having an affair and suspect he is not telling her the truth anyway as he talks to her and that he is hiding something.

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